Cycling nerdy girl.
I am an art student in San Diego.
I work at a bakery. Yes I get free bread.
Non-preachy vegan :-)
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People can be nice and superficial and selfish
You want to think that superfical people are easy to spot and easy to hate. You want to think they’re like really horrible villains that are unlikable 100% of the day. That they don’t help you move apartments. That they’re mean jocks or bitchy cheerleaders.
But here is the sad truth. They’re often kind of nice. When things are going well, they smile at old ladies, and encourage you at school and work. They do help you move apartments.
Superficial people are only found out when a better offer comes up. When push comes to shove. When they meet their best friend’s cute cousin and then ditch helping you move apartments. When they date tons of nice, awesome people, but unsatisfied, get hung up on that one person who rejected then… who just happened be extremely attractive.
Superficial people totally talk to you at events. They’re even really nice and interested in your work/classes/projects… until somebody with more status joins the circle.
This is the sad truth: Superficial people aren’t mean. They’re just weak.
What makes it so hard to be friends with a superficial person is, they think they’re really nice, self-aware. They even get bummed out when other people are mean. They wonder aloud why people aren’t as nice as they are. And you have to just sit there and listen. What do you say to these people. It’s easy to explain to jerks how they’re dysfunctional. But a superficial person’s problem is hard to explain.
I think it’s probably best just to not be friends at all with people like this.
